Yes, we can have it all!

“Who has convinced us that we cannot have whatever it is that we want or desire?”, I ask myself.

Often, I’ll catch myself saying to my kids; “You need to choose. You cannot have both”. I even said that to my son this morning!

I’ll say things like, “we need to be mindful of our resources and grateful with what we have.” or “It’s a spoiled and immature behavior to want it all” or “In life we need to make choices and live in moderation. Other people have much less than us or even nothing. We should be grateful for having whatever we already have.”

Also, I would be judgmental and consider someone that wants more and more (especially around material possessions) spoiled, immature and ungrateful.

In the recent past I would be proud of myself for thinking this way. I know most of us would find this way of thinking quite reasonable, logical and considerate of others. And although not inherently wrong, this way of thinking and the associated “truths” stem from something deeper.

You see, that is a core belief that is deeply entrenched in our subconscious mind and it’s based on a scarcity mindset and runs in our DNA for millennia. It’s also a belief that is associated with deep shame and guilt. It’s the belief that resources, like money, food, shelter, people, are limited and therefore your wishes and desires need to adapt accordingly. Afterall, how dare you believing you could have it all?

It’s a fact that we live on a planet where natural resources are available in a certain amount and being mindful of their usage is of paramount importance for our survival as a species. No doubt about that.

Yet, these resources are more than enough for everyone on this planet as long as we treat our planet with respect and we use/consume as much as we actually need. And that is the shift we need to make in our consciousness.

It’s not that resources are limited. It’s just that we treat them as they are out of fear of lack, which implies suffering. We feel, think and act from a place of scarcity. And that has a huge impact on our interactions and the way we treat ourselves, each other and our planet as a whole.

This deep (automatic) core belief has an impact on us at every level of our being. It impacts the way we feel about ourselves and our world and greatly undermines our sense of power and safety in the world. It turns us into victims and sets us automatically in a mode of separation and competition with others over the “limited” resources. Fearful of lacking essential resources in the (near) future, we consume far more than we need to and we create a viscous cycle of dysfunction that slowly but surely would lead us to a disastrous dead end.

But it doesn’t have to be this way. Because a belief is nothing more than a perception and a learned way of living. Simply by bringing awareness to those beliefs and working to shift them within our own being first, we can paint a completely different picture and story both for ourselves and for the world. When acting from a whole, emotional healthy, secure and empowered place and believing we have everything we need and that we’ll always have, then the game of reality changes. Then we are in a position of actually making choices and satisfying ALL our TRUE needs, wants and desires from a place of love and respect for all that is: ourself, others and the world as a whole.

And yes, we can have it all without shame or guilt because there is more than enough for everyone, as long as our desires come from a centered, aligned and secure place within ourselves. Because from that place of love and safety we understand that we are the world and the world is us.

That’s the way forward not just for our survival but for our thriving and evolution as a species on this planet.

So be(come) aware, stay strong and choose to change the script. You hold much greater power than you think. Use your power wisely.