What about us?

Moving forward and changing your life has inevitably an impact to those around you as well.

And that knowing, whether we are aware of it or not, is exactly what greatly affects and informs our decisions and actions during that time.

It determines how much willing we are to “sacrifice” our old life, mindset and relationships in order to create and live something new -still unknown to us-.

In the process of changing our narratives and circumstances, we come up against significant resistance which is created both by us and by those around us. Especially by those that are closest to us.

Suddenly we turn into strangers with the people that we were close to the most. We feel alienated. This is an alignment gap essentially. And that’s hard. That’s painful.

That tests our willingness and intention for that “desired” change. It causes us to question our knowing. We doubt it.

This gap in our alignment with others becomes prominent and more obvious when we find ourselves in limbo between two worlds. The old version of us that they know, love and accept and the new version of us which is unfamiliar, strange and unsettling for them (and maybe for us too). Conditions that till now felt safe and familiar but, they don’t anymore.

The process of becoming (expanding, growing) requires that we shed many layers of our old identity and by extension also people, places and external circumstances.

And so it often happens that the person who goes through the change feels called to choose between “themselves” and “the other person”. And when that happens the ground is set for someone to get hurt. When AND consciousness cannot be achieved between the two parties, when our new version cannot be accepted, then the difficult choice has to be made.

There is this saying that comes to mind, probably you’ve heard it: “If you love someone let them go. If they return back to you they are yours. If not, they were never meant to be with you.”

I do believe that universe aligns us with what we need at any given moment. And that may not be exactly what we want or what we expected.

So, if you’re going through a period of change and people around you cannot follow up with the new version of who you’re becoming, choose you and your expansion anyway.

It’s not your responsibility to “save” or to “expand” others. They need to choose that for themselves too. And it’s ok if they are not yet ready for it. You cannot force them- even if you’d wanted to-. And yes, that will most likely cause temporarily some turmoil and disruption, but there can be no growth without disruption.

Trust your calling, trust your timing and trust that you are safe. Ultimately, everything will fall into place for the best of all.

Be strong. Be courageous. Keep moving forward.