Embrace your uniqueness
Don't seek to be like everyone else.
Don't ask to be part of a world that has long since ended, simply waiting for the official collapse and destruction brought about by the change to a new way of life. A new social, political, and individual path is coming for all of us. Whether we like it or not. Whether we chose it or not. It is already happening. From the inside out and from the outside in. Change is here and gaining ground every day. Today in me, tomorrow in you. Our world is changing rapidly, and you, clinging to a false sense of security, are trying to keep up. Why? For whom?
Adolescence, which is a time of exploration and realization of your individuality and uniqueness in this world, ends up becoming a period of merging with the "herd." A herd of similar people. Same style, same language, same behavior. Why? Why are you afraid to let your individuality be shown?
Up until the age of 3-5, you were a unique, fearless, special, and daring (little) person. You expressed your individuality and talents effortlessly and unpretentiously. You expressed all the colors and manifestations of your being—the source of your life—without pretense or explanation. You were simply you!
But then, something changed…
Some people may have rejected you—or so you thought—precisely because of your uniqueness, and made you believe that it is wrong not to be like everyone else. Because they taught you that if you don't fit in, you don't belong, and you risk being eaten by the wolf in the fairy tale your mother read to you when you were a little kid. And since then you started to shrink. To hide or even remove colors from the canvas of your existence... to fit in... innocently and naively believing that others were right and that this was what you had to do... But NO. They were wrong! Your uniqueness is not only desirable in this world. It is essential! And adolescence is the period of life to discover it and consciously accept it. To accept yourself. Yes, you, yourself. Not me you or you me. Each of us ourselves. Because if you don't do it then, you will spend the next 2 decades of your life living someone else's life. No matter how good it is (or how good they tell you it is), you will always feel something. Like a piece of clothing that just doesn't fit you right. And the worst part? You won't even know why...
And then, around the age of 40, you will go through adolescence again, a little late. It's your second chance... "level 2." But if you wait until then, the fear of taking risks and the consequences of your rebellion will be significantly greater and will require more courage, faith, and strength to ignore*. That's how it goes. As you advance through the levels of the game of life, the difficulty increases. But you don't have to wait. Now is your chance to see and realize how wonderful and unique you are. Inside you, at your core. To get to know and accept yourself in all your colors. To allow yourself to grow again, not in age but in spiritual and mental capacity.
Why? Because this world needs complete people. People who are spiritually and physically free from outdated ideas and limiting beliefs that hinder free thought and expression. It craves balanced, happy people who live their lives with authenticity and integrity. Clear, open, and creative minds.
It's not easy. I recognize that. In a society that marginalizes, almost punishes, uniqueness and individuality instead of supporting and embracing it, you don't feel safe being completely authentic. Perhaps if your well-being and survival were not intertwined with a social group, large or small, then perhaps things would be simpler. Human relationships certainly complicate the equation. However, just because it is not simple does not mean it is not possible. Since every society is made up of individuals, the only way for a society to become safe is if enough individuals decide to feel safe from within, regardless of the "hostile" external environment, and to unleash their uniqueness and create their own paradise. Because the paradise you may be searching for, or that some have promised you, is not an unattainable dream or goal for another life, but for this life.
How? By aligning your mind, your beliefs, and your actions with your inner compass, you hold the key to creating and living your personal paradise throughout your earthly life. And this paradise will not and cannot be the same for everyone, as it is inextricably linked to your uniqueness.
Your strength lies in your willingness to look inside yourself, to observe yourself, to listen to yourself, to hear yourself, and to love yourself. Self-awareness is our greatest weapon. It is our compass. Our lives then become more beautiful and simpler because we know who we are, where we come from, and where we want to go. As a natural consequence, we filter our choices based on these criteria, regardless of whether they are suitable or acceptable to those around us.
And don't worry, you won't be alone and cut off in your personal paradise. Through your authenticity and uniqueness, and by remaining true to your deep personal truths and desires, you have the perfect compass that will lead you to create compatible relationships! Deep, mutual, supportive, and true relationships. Relationships that will make you feel safe and protected to fully express your uniqueness. Relationships with people who will see you and accept you for who you are. Not for something they want you to be.
So, don't ask to be like anybody else. Ask to be free and live the life that only you can live. Your own life.
* Note: Fear cannot be defeated or overcome. It is a functional mechanism of the human body designed to keep you alive. Most of our fears are "false alarms," based on a distorted perception and interpretation of reality. If you really want to free yourself from fear, first recognize it, name it, then ignore it and move on. Yes, even if you don't believe it, you can live a beautiful life even if you break up with the love of your life, even if your best friend never speaks to you again, or even if your dad doesn't accept you! It's up to you...
