And now what?
They say that to maintain a good relationship is not easy. Relationships require a lot of work and effort.
I disagree.
An aligned relationship will always feel easy, - no matter how many bumps it faces along the way-. It will flow and evolve naturally and it will never feel like “work” or “effort”. It’s simply meant to be…
Aligned relationships are not “perfect relationships”. Many times we align with people and form relationships (not necessarily romantic) for a period of time in order to experience and receive certain life lessons. For as long as it takes for us to learn the lesson, the relationship may feel “aligned”. But then…all of the sudden it may turn into a misaligned relationship. How would you know?
You’ll feel a disconnection, and a sense of draining and effort that you have not felt before in maintaining the relationship alive.
And now what?
Sadly, when most of us experience misaligned relationships, instead of choosing to releasing it and move on, we cling on for dear life and push hard to “make it work”. If only we would do something different, if only we were somehow different, then things would improve. If only… Afterall, this is what we’ve been modelled by other people around us. No wonder that this is what we default into.
If only we could realize how draining and misfunctioning that is.
Yet, the heart speaks no logic, right?
Wrong! Your heart will always show you the truth.
It’s your narratives and the mind that will play the trick on you. It’s your own thoughts and beliefs that will tell you, you haven’t done enough, you haven’t tried enough, you’ve been wrong or they’ve been wrong in so many ways and that you need to ‘fix it’!
When at the same time the heart gently whispers…”let it go! It’s time!”.
In that moment it takes strength and courage to listen to your heart. You’re scared, you’re sad, you truly believed this could work. A part of you is in deep grief about that truth. You resist the whispers…you resist your truth…you keep pushing…until one day you give up. And then you say to yourself…
“I’m done. I am ready to move on. Show me how”.
