Mind game
No-one can take away your freedom but yourself.
No-one can make you do nothing you don’t choose to do . Please let that ink in for a moment!
We are so powerful! We create everything we perceive or experience through our thoughts, feelings and actions (choices). We choose every single moment. Our brains run wild and calculate pros and cons in nanoseconds. We make decisions and choices instantly.
What choice we’ll make depends on numerous reasons. The consequences of that choice is not always under our control, nor are the reasons that leads us to make the specific choice. But regardless, the choice is always ours! Unfortunately, most of the time we make choices on autopilot.
Let me break it a bit down for you.
Reasons, -or better said your reasoning which you’ve developed in the first decade of your life-, lead you to make a certain choice. The choice leads to certain consequences. Your interpretation of the resulting consequences form new set(s) of reasons and those inform then your future choices.
This mental process may keep you going in loops or feeling stuck and frustrated. You may feel you have no control over anything leading you to a victimized mindset and even hopelessness. In this state of mind, you feel trapped by circumstances or other people. You think that you have so many dreams and desires which you would like to go after or accomplish if only…things or people around you were different! But is this actually true?
What your mind tries to convince you in that moment is that you have no control or power to change anything. Why? Because if you’d know how much control you actually have you’d make different choices that would potentially jeopardize your perceived “safety” (i.e., habits and relationships).
There is a way out of this “mind maze”…and that is your deepest desires. Those nudges that keep coming up like soft sensations or whispers in moments of calmness and silence. They are always accompanied with a feeling of openness and excitement. They may not make logical sense though, and probably your mind can find instantly a million of reasons why those desires are not “for you”. Perhaps if things were different… Yes, correct. you’re back in the mind game. But when you recognize it, now you have the choice to redirect it and re-train it! Ask your mind to give you at least 3 reasons why those desires are actually a perfect match for you! :)
Our desires are our sacred compass. It’s what our intuition, our inner knowing, guides at towards no matter how much our minds try to prevent us from them. The mind is always questioning those desires to keep us “safe” (for the mind safety = the known). That’s the mind’s job.
But your job is to live! You came here to live, learn, grow and experience the life of your dreams, not a life you’ve been taught. Your life is the life your desires (attempt to) lead you towards. Life operates in trial and error. Excitement and fulfilment is found behind your greatest fears. The mind is a great tool that is amazing in learning new ways and find “new safety” if you give it the desired direction. The mind is not your enemy as long as you know how to use it so that it serves you instead of controlling you.
Making choices in alignment with your desires is the key to true freedom. This is the process of teaching yourself who you truly are. One step at a time! There is no rush in this! Get in love with the process and not aim just for the results. Remind yourself that life is a process, a journey. The end destination of that journey we all know what it will be. The ways, stops and experiences in between though, depend on the moment to moment choices we make. So better make them in alignment with our desires. Then, in the end, we’ll have lived a life worth living!
Believe me, you can do this! We all can, when we choose to!
